The art of saying “no” is quite liberating and should be considered therapeutic self-care. Start with your sister. Venue selection, photographers, etc is not the bridesmaid’s job. Your job is to find the most abhorrent dresses possible to make the bride look prettier than the other women standing around her at the altar and in the wedding pictures.
It can be easier to say no via message, and if it makes you feel more comfortable, you can explain why (work, other stuff). Your body has made the decision for you, it's important to look after it (the same thing happened to me, multiple times).
As an ex-wedding planner, I suggest sending your sister some downloadable wedding planning spreadsheets (look how helpful you're being!!) and telling her you'll gladly plan the bachelorette party. Full stop.
I'm going to restack this, but please know that I'm only laughing at your pain because you're hilarious.
I remember the first time I said no to somebody's request. I had called out sick from work, and then had the manager call and ask if I could come in anyway. I said yes, of course, and then hung up the phone.
About 10 seconds later I realized what I had done. I was sick. I had no business being there (it was a restaurant).
Somehow I made myself call him back and tell him no, I'm sick, I can't actually come in.
It was bizarre and I felt terrified, but also immensely relieved.
I vividly remember the time I worked two back-to-back convenings on opposite sides of the country and got so sick that my doctor ordered me to take a week off and when I went back, I was reprimanded for not smiling enough those last two days. I'm fairly certain if he'd said that in the moment, my jaw would have seized up, too.
Sending solidarity and I hope you offload some of that wedding planning - that sounds tough all on its own!
I remember my first no, it took me 2 hours with live coaching via phone call from my mom. I finally sent the NO-text and I haven't had any problem saying no since. It feels like throwing in a hand granade in a social situation. In my case I thought the NO/hand granade would cause chaos and conflict but it didn't.
The art of saying “no” is quite liberating and should be considered therapeutic self-care. Start with your sister. Venue selection, photographers, etc is not the bridesmaid’s job. Your job is to find the most abhorrent dresses possible to make the bride look prettier than the other women standing around her at the altar and in the wedding pictures.
It can be easier to say no via message, and if it makes you feel more comfortable, you can explain why (work, other stuff). Your body has made the decision for you, it's important to look after it (the same thing happened to me, multiple times).
Well anyway, happy birthday.
As an ex-wedding planner, I suggest sending your sister some downloadable wedding planning spreadsheets (look how helpful you're being!!) and telling her you'll gladly plan the bachelorette party. Full stop.
I'm going to restack this, but please know that I'm only laughing at your pain because you're hilarious.
You may be crap at saying No but at least you’re a master of wit.
Sentence after sentence of corkers. How to choose which one to restack? All so good.
´The doctor prescribes muscle relaxers and suggests I "try to reduce stress" which is like telling someone who's drowning to "try to be less wet."´
Omg Michelle, this is awful 😢 definitely a sign to draw some boundaries xxx
I feel I could have written this myself 😵💫😆 Condolences. Learning to say no is HARD.
I remember the first time I said no to somebody's request. I had called out sick from work, and then had the manager call and ask if I could come in anyway. I said yes, of course, and then hung up the phone.
About 10 seconds later I realized what I had done. I was sick. I had no business being there (it was a restaurant).
Somehow I made myself call him back and tell him no, I'm sick, I can't actually come in.
It was bizarre and I felt terrified, but also immensely relieved.
I hope you can find your "no" soon.
I vividly remember the time I worked two back-to-back convenings on opposite sides of the country and got so sick that my doctor ordered me to take a week off and when I went back, I was reprimanded for not smiling enough those last two days. I'm fairly certain if he'd said that in the moment, my jaw would have seized up, too.
Sending solidarity and I hope you offload some of that wedding planning - that sounds tough all on its own!
You have the humor of someone who has no breaking point while feeling every moment of pain you're experiencing
...imho would've just had a full mental breakdown at that point no lie
Saying no is all good and well but it is not easy. I get this totally.
I love giving you advice.
Practice saying "Im sorry, That doesnt work for me right now." and then just smiling at them. Like they were crazy for asking
OR - What I do is ...
Never say no. "just give them put the price you willing to do it "
I dont think this will work for the wedding or being evicted ... but you could try...
I remember my first no, it took me 2 hours with live coaching via phone call from my mom. I finally sent the NO-text and I haven't had any problem saying no since. It feels like throwing in a hand granade in a social situation. In my case I thought the NO/hand granade would cause chaos and conflict but it didn't.